How to prepare your kids for the move: tips and tricks
UncategorizedJune 30, 2020
Moving brings a lot of challenges with the process – but one of the most difficult might be how to deal with your kids. The process might be tough on you – but it’s a nightmare for your children. This is why you will need to prepare your kids for the move. There is much that you need to do and to know – from telling them what is happening, over getting them used to the idea of moving to actually including them in the move. Luckily, Zippy Shell Moving and Storage DMV is here to help you with all of these steps! In this article, we take a look at how to move with your children, and make the process as painless as possible!
Understand why moving is so tough on kids
The first thing you will want to do is to figure out why so many children act out when approached about the topic of moving. The answer, fortunately, is quite simple. Most of the people on the planet are creatures of habit. Children are more so than adults! Even as kids, you build a support system around yourself. This system helps you understand the world around you, and is a safety blanket when something shifts or changes. Everyone is included in your kids’ system – from other kids on the street and their parents to their friends at school. Even teachers and other adults they meet daily are there!
So, when you want to move, you are plucking them away from the system. And this comes as quite a shock. They might feel like they are losing the world they know. Which, when you look at it, might not be far from true if you are moving interstate. And, as a natural response to this shock, kids can act out. Depending on the child, they might throw tantrums, get depressed, or shut down completely. As a parent, it is up to you to predict how your child will react – although keep in mind that they can still surprise you!
Luckily, no matter how they react, the way to prepare your kids for the move still consists of the same steps. Only your response to the whole thing will change depending on your child. These three steps are:
- taking to your kid about the move;
- getting them excited about the move and
- including your children in the move in some capacity.
Prepare your kids for the move by talking to them
This is the primary step you need to take in order to get them ready for the move. Again, this is the step that will require the most care. Depending on your child, you might want to put up a front that they will not be able to get through. So, here’s what you need to know.
First, if you are moving together with your partner, you need to be a united front. Kids will tend to rebel and look for a partner when it comes to being against the move, but if you both are for it, then it will have nowhere to go. What your kid needs to understand is that this move is happening whether they like it or not – but it’s up to you how you will send your child this message.
What’s important is to let them know that you are there for them. Tell them that it is okay to feel sad, but that residential moving is a thing that happens in life. Make sure they understand that you are here for their emotions and to help in any way you can. Try to be their friend, not their enemy. But still, keep in mind that the move needs to happen, no matter how much they protest.
Get them excited for the move
One of the best strategies to prepare your kids for the move is to get them excited about it. Explain that while there will be changes in their lives, most of them will be very good. Talk to them about the new city – maybe there is something they would love to see when they get there. The same applies to the state you are going to – if it is a new one.
It’s a smart idea to go online, explore and learn as much as you can about your new city with your children. For example, if you are moving to Northern Virginia, then you will want to learn as much as you can about the state beforehand. Have your kids help in this research, and they might start getting excited about the move as well. This excitement will replace their anxieties, and they will be ready when the moving day finally arrives.
What’s more, if possible, you might want to take a trip to your new home. This way, you can walk around the neighborhood and talk about what your life will look like. Your kids will start rebuilding their system in this way quite early in the process.
Let them give you a hand to prepare your kids for the move
The point of these exercises is to somehow involve your kids in the moving process. This way, they will get a sense of control and power that the move is taking from them. A lot of people will, for example, offer their kids to plan their new bedroom or pack up their old one. This way, they will be making a decision about what to take with them or what their life will look like after the move.
Of course, it’s important to note that even when they are packing their room, you should help them. This way, you will still overlook and control the process. Thus, they will not pack everything up if your budget doesn’t allow it! Using activities like this one will help prepare your kids for the move and make the process easy for everyone involved.